The emotional roller-coaster ride of the Currie Cup Final we, the supporters, went on, and the big-dipper of the EOYT squad selection begs the question, if we experience such highs and lows: â€œWhat happens in the minds of the players?â€?
Saturday had lots of us emotionally â€˜drainedâ€™; the subsequent EOYT Springbok Team selection had lots of us, on a high and a low for selected and non-selected players. For three days the emotions have been flowing thick and fast here on RuggaWorld. Teams have been selected, dissected and re-elected, arguments for and against have at times been viciously stated, even personal attacks have been launched.
Nobody can say the experiences we had and the exchanges we made were not emotional. Some may argue the experiences and exchanges were Emotionally Intelligent, and others that Intelligent Emotions were nowhere to be found. The Brand explores the â€˜frames of mindâ€™ of us – the supporters, coaches and players – when we have our â€˜emotionsâ€™ and when our â€˜emotionsâ€™ have us. Everybody is included on a daily basis â€“ up and down, momentary and â€˜permanentâ€™.
So how did our coaches and players experience Saturdayâ€™s draw of the Currie Cup Final?
Beeld, Monday 16 October 2006, Pote Human coach of Blue Bulls on the CC-Final draw: â€œWe are not crying, but we are not happy either.â€?
The Star, Monday 16 October 2006, Rassie Erasmus coach of the Cheetahs on the CC-Final draw: â€œThe positive thing is that three years ago you wouldnâ€™t have said we would win the Currie Cup.â€?
The Citizen, Monday 16 October 2006, Rassie Erasmus coach of the Cheetahs on the CC-Final draw: â€œBut three years ago it would have unimaginable to say we are disappointed to share the Currie Cup.â€?
The Star, Monday 16 October 2006, Wikus van Heerden captain of the Golden Lions on the draw: â€œWhile there will be disappointment among the players they didnâ€™t win, there will also be satisfaction they didnâ€™t lose. The players gave absolutely everything for their sides and neither can claim they should have won.â€?
How did the players and coaches experienced Saturdayâ€™s EOYT Springbok selections?
The Citizen, Monday 16 October 2006, Rassie Erasmus coach of the Cheetahs: â€œIâ€™ll never criticize the selection of another coach, who selects players that he has work with and has to back himself.â€?
The Star, Monday 16 October 2006, Jaco Pretorius on being selected for the Springboks for the first time: â€œIt feels wonderful . . . very over whelming. I hardly slept last night and had dreams of scoring a try for South Africa. I lay in bed yesterday morning still full of emotion and I suppose itâ€™ll take a few days to absorb.â€?
Beeld, Monday 16 October 2006, Jaco Pretorius on being selected for the Springboks for the first time: â€œPlease excuse the tears. I am a very emotional person and player. I do not have the words to explain how I am feeling.â€?
Beeld, Monday 16 October 2006, Frans Steyn a 19 year old being selected for the Springboks: â€œI would never in my life have thought that Iâ€™d be chosen for the Bokke at this stage.â€? â€œI do not know if I am in the clouds or on earth. I actually donâ€™t know where I am. I am shocked.â€?
And we thought we were on an emotional roller-coaster ride with the big-dipper thrown in for fun!
For the professional sportsman everyday, every week and every season is like this. Compare their â€˜workâ€™ to your own â€“ imagine that just participating in your profession may, every moment, result in that you lose the single vital aspect that allows you to perform, e.g. eye-sight, mental ability, fingers (hitting the key-board) or speech, imagine that. Now letâ€™s go one step further, imagine that someone else is in control of you participating and advancing in the corporate ride.
So how do we manage our emotions?
How should coaches and players manage their emotions?
Are emotions just for the â€˜weakâ€™?
Are emotions just airy-fairy stuff, soft skills that have no place amongst full-blooded, physically combative men?
Do our â€˜emotionsâ€™ show-up in our actions and speech?
What effects do emotions have on our performance?
Are emotions â€˜intelligentâ€™ as in EQ â€“ Emotional Intelligence?
Do emotions have a life of their own?
Just for today, I will sit in front of the emotional ride â€“ let it rip!!!
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